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Why Do Survivors Stay?

When it is a viable option, it is best for survivors to do what they can to escape their aggressor. However, this is not the case in all situations. A person who chooses violence will repeatedly go to extremes to ...

How Do Abusive Relationships End?

There are three possible endings to a relationship where domestic violence is present: 1.    The partner who chooses violence gets help for their problem. 2.    The survivor leaves the relationship. 3.    The relationship continues. The partner who chooses violence gets help for their problem: Partner ...

The Narcissist’s Prayer

That didn’t happen. And if it did, it wasn’t that bad. And if it was, that’s not a big deal And if it is, that’s not my fault. And if it was, I didn’t mean it. And if I did, you deserved it. The Narcissist's Prayer ...

Setting Boundaries in a Relationship

There are a lot of misconceptions about what boundaries are and do for relationships. We may feel that boundaries are unnecessary because our partner is supposed to already know and act on our needs and wants, or that they ruin ...

Dear Survivor… Part II

Dear Survivor’s who have been watching the news lately, Every day, the news delivers another act of violence. Over the past month, many of us have watched people be murdered on our phones or TV screens, in the middle of our ...

Digital Boundaries & Internet Safety

We fully live in a digital world. We shop, communicate, learn, and entertain ourselves online, and this is especially true for children. Today's kids grow up with constant access to information unlike anything seen in human history. For most of the ...

Sexual Strangulation: Safe or Deadly?

According to Brown University sexual strangulation can be defined as, “...(often called “choking”) the application of pressure to the neck, usually with the hand(s) or a limb, which restricts air flow and/or blood flow to the brain.” Popularized in the ...

Understanding Stalking: Meaning, Types, and Impact

"Stalking is a pattern of behavior directed at a specific person that causes fear or emotional distress (SPARC)." Under Illinois law, two or more incidents make it a pattern of stalking. Incidents can include, but are not limited to, unwanted contact over ...